Jenny McCarthy on Oprah

Love, Lust & Faking It by Jenny McCarthy

Jenny McCarthy appeared today on The Oprah Winfrey Show and talked about finding happiness within herself as opposed to through the love of someone else. McCarthy, who broke up with Jim Carrey last April, said the reason for the end was that she stopped laughing. She went on to explain that she stopped enjoying her time with him and that she started to see their relationship as an hourglass where she could see each grain of sand as one last lesson to be learned. She felt she had learned all she could from that particular relationship and was ready to move on. A very profound way to view such important relationships in our lives, especially when they end.

“I realized that I was under this belief system that you have to have a lover  in order to have love in your life. I came out of it realizing I’m the love of my life.”

Looking at life as a constant series of lessons to be learned can be very empowering and optimistic. You can look at every obstacle, every failure, every frustration as something to help you grow and become a better (and ultimately best) version of yourself. Of course I had to quickly run out and buy McCarthy’s book and having just perused the first few pages, I can already tell you it is filled with some cute anecdotes and inspiring stories (as well as some slightly risque stories for an older crowd). McCarthy has a great talent for being an open book, she literally calls it like it is!

She certainly has an eye-catching (and humorous!) cover! I love that it is a play on the bodice-ripping romance novels that fill entire bookstore sections. McCarthy said, during the Oprah taping, that the “Faking It” reference on the cover had nothing to do with what goes on in the bedroom and everything to do with what women do when they first meet a man. She explained how we lie to potential boyfriends because we want to be liked. We pretend to be someone we’re not (ie, liking sports).To make her point, McCarthy went on to imitate a pseudo conversation that she should have had with many men in her life. “Guess what, I don’t like football, I’d rather be watching Dancing with the Stars and I don’t like your grandma!”  Jenny McCarthy was very endearing, sweet and self-deprecating. She did a great job “selling” her book and I was caught… hook, line and sinker.